What If?

Do you spend your life asking yourself “What if?”

What if I had gone to that Ivy League university?

What if we had more money?

What if I had told her I was sorry?

What if we had a bigger house?

What if we had another night together?

What if I hadn’t lost my job?

What if…

The problem with “what if?” is that it often faces the wrong direction. It’s turned around backwards and filled with regrets. We can’t do anything about life in that direction, except turn the fuck around and go the other way.

What is.

That’s where we live.

We learn to love who we are, what we have, appreciate the world when we spend a minute or two with “what is.” Of course, it can also suck. Sometimes, the present hurts, but that’s alright, because the present has a friend who’s a bit of a party animal.

What next?

That’s what keeps me going. The world of possibilities. I don’t have to be locked into my past or my present. I can focus on what my future holds. So far, I like what I see.  

Comments

[Janet Isserlis]

thanks for this, Leah

yes.

yes, yes, yes yes yes

[Jaimie]

Love it...thank you

[Zip n Tizzy]

Thank you for the reminder and the fresh perspective...What's next... definitely working on it.(With what is, of course ; )

[Dani Latham]

I need your writing more than I need coffee in the morning.

[califmom]

Wow. That's an enormous compliment. Thank you.

[Tina Cruz]

For you to say this...

just another reason you rock so hard.

[Editdebs]

If you can say this, then so can I. Sometimes need a kick in the butt to remember how much I have to be grateful for. You are one of my favorite blog finds.

[califmom]

thank you. :)

[Adrienne]

You are so fucking awesome! Your writing is raw and beautiful and inspiring. Despite your immeasurable loss, you put yourself out there for all of us to read and I can't tell you how much I admire you. I wish that you could join us in Tahoe next month! Love, A

[Aunt Becky]

THIS is why I love you. I wish we lived closer to each other so that we could hang.

[Miss Grace]

This is such a fabulous message.

[mouseandbug]

You don't even know how much that post got me through this day. Thank you for you honesty, insight and again, thank you.

[Steph]

I have to tell you, since I started reading you, I am a better person. I've been struggling for a year and a half because of a catastrophic fire. I have wallowed in my self pity for a long time. Then I started reading you and I was like "you have GOT to be kidding me?!" I had to really take a long, hard look at myself and my wallowing. I'm not 100% better. I'd be lying if I said I was. But you give me SUCH hope. If you can survive what you're surviving and get out of bed in the morning and face the day there's just no way I can justify not doing the same thing!! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

[califmom]

And you all make it possible for ME to get out of bed in the morning. Seriously. It's a group effort, here. That's what makes this work, you know?

[Leslie]

You are amazing. What a wonderful post.

[The Sweetest]

This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you.

[Nancy]

Thank you. I don't always comment, but I do read and appreciate the insights that I have gotten from your writing. Who would have guessed I would learn so much from one of the "kids". I think of you everyday and offer a prayer, a thought, for you and your children to heal. Love you.

[mrschaos]

I love this.

You are amazing.

No "what-if's" about it.

[Amanda]

I think you've nailed it- the only thing that keeps me going is the promise that there will be a "tomorrow" and it's full of possibilities.Hugs

[Suzy]

I need to remember this every day. This brought me to tears. You often to, though, in a good way...in a necessary way, even. Thank you.-Suzanne