Changes (Like An Alien Possession)

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I’ve never been a morning person. Well, aside from infancy when I wasn’t a sleeping person at either end of the clock. Past that, I mastered sleeping during daylight hours, but never did get that night thing down.

Now, I wake up every day around 5 or 6 AM. AM. Like, in the morning. Before GOD is up. Not because I have to be somewhere. Not because I have to. Not because I got a fabulous night’s sleep the night before. My eyes just pop open and I’m awake for the day.

Morning Person. I have become one. It’s scaring the children.

I’m also a rather high-strung, serious person by nature. Aside from those moments when I have to deal with the more overwhelming paperwork or logistical details of Bob’s death, I can deal with the emotional parts really well. The kids and I are talking openly, I have a positive view of the future and the present, and feel like we’re all coping in a way that honors the plans he and I made before his death. He wanted us to keep living, not miss a beat, not wallow. He knew we’d be sad sometimes, and we absolutely are, but as someone who was so adamant about living life to the fullest himself, he wanted nothing less for the people he loved most.

Optimistic Person. I have become one. I like her. She’s fun to have around.

This past year and a half, between Bob’s medical issues and mine, our social world was almost non-existent. The little bit we managed to do with friends and family was sandwiched between extraordinarily stressful times. We both missed having those times with our friends and family. Play time was important to both of us. Bob raced motorcycles, played golf, and went to Packers games in his spare time. And he made sure I had plenty of time with my friends, too. Now, the fog is lifting and being able to spend time with my friends is one of the most healing things I can do. Trips to visit them in their homes, go out to dinner, cook together, listen to music—it heals the soul.

Social Me. She’s back. Thank, God. I missed her.

Now, if Marathon Runner Me shows up in a gym near you, whip up an exorcism because hell hath frozen-the-fuck-over.

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Comments

[Janet Isserlis]

the blog ate my comment.

mostly it was thank you. for teaching us

xo

[lea]

so happy that you guys are healing...

[michele]

i am mishedup on twitter..and in life. 4 years in.you're my heromichele

[Christa]

i love you. and one day, i am going to hug the mess out of you! thank you for sharing these parts of you. xo

[Michelle]

You are such a positive STRONG woman . I just want to say how happy I am that you and your children are healing !!

Keep moving forward!!!Take CareMichelle and Family ((( HUGS )))

[Tina Cruz]

I don't know what the hell was in your water...but I am ALSO a morning person now. Between the puppy and drinking the water..er, tequila, at your house... well, now I am up before God.

I am still very much light-aversive, though. So I suppose I am myself. I walk the dog at O' early-thirty, though.

I am beyond thrilled that you all are healing. Bob is joyous, I think.

[Summer]

I hope to never become a morning person. ;)

[Alisa]

(Half) Marathon Runner Me could happen. I know where you live and could drag you from the house. :)

[califmom]

You're scaring me.

[Amanda]

It does my heart good to read your blog :)Hugs

[califmom]

Thank you. :)

[Steal_rain]

You forced me to join twitter, all the better to follow you around, my dear.

Love this post.

(Dani Latham)

[Shana Dumblond]

Ugh. I hate mornings. Unfortunately, my son is one of you morning people. Thank God that kid is old enough to make his own breakfast.Very glad to hear that more happiness is going your way.

[dawnmatthews@comcast.net]

What a great post. I am so glad "social-Leah" is back. I had a blast at dinner. We need to schedule another one very soon. Oh and I will smack-down any "marathon-Leah" I meet. But as I recall, you did do the breast cancer walk one year, right?

[Steph]

In the past few days I have become a morning person. I intensely dislike it. I am very tired. I have no idea why I can't sleep past 6 AM but it is kicking my butt! I am jealous you can form complete sentences after being up early because I just can't!

[califmom]

I actually did it twice. Crazy! 

[Glenda]

So happy to hear you and the kiddos are healing.

[Bunjee333]

I believe Bob is very, very proud of you. Reading about your healing process is incredibly heartwarming. You are a beautiful person.

Take care.-- Sara

[Tree]

what a great post Leah :) Thank you. I love you!