Living, Because I Didn't Die

No matter how much I wanted to climb into the grave with my husband’s ashes, I didn’t. Why? Because he died. NOT ME. I may have to remind myself of that some days, but it’s the reality of the situation. He left this planet. And, if you’re reading this, you didn’t leave it, either. So, let’s get to the business of living, shall we?

First off, I got to the business of putting some plants into those raised beds so that we’d have some life growing in there, and some FOOD. My trusty garden adviser and friend, Karyn, and I planted a truckload of varieties of tomatoes, onions, squash, strawberries, pumpkins, cucumbers, zucchini, beans, peas, corn,  and melons, and will be planting potatoes when they arrive, a plethora o’ herbs into containers, three kinds of berries, and possibly an espaliered fruit tree that grows four types of stone fruits.

 

Then, I headed out to do a little more living with some longtime friends and toast to Bob. Don Julio did not let us down. He’s a good man, that D.J. Lots of laughing, a little drinking, and good Mexican food—just what’s needed for living.

The kids did a little living, too—time with friends and family, movies, BBQs, and Weird Al. (Yes, Weird Al is still keeping his pimp-hand strong.)

Comments

[Superjules]

Weird Al is my homeboy.

[Casey Scalzi]

Weird Al rules.

[Summer]

Cheers!

[Zip n Tizzy]

You are awesome, and that espalierd tree sounds awesome too.Cheers!

[laurie maine]

bet that made Bob happy!!!

[pgoodness]

Good for you. :)

[Tree]

Thank you for this reminder! I was told "time will heal" and I am learning, that YES it does, although I still take one day at a time, I am healing. never forgetting, but beginning to smile again! That is what Bob would want. Even though we miss him, we do have to continue living. Leah, I love you and thank you for your continued strength and perserverance. You are my hero <3PS: thanks for letting me have Aunnie too! really helps me smile!Love you mucho, mostest, HUGELY<3 Tree <3

[Becky]

Weird Al IS the shiznit. Agreed. Glad that you had a good weekend. Can't wait to see your garden when stuff starts growing!

[TSM/30somethingandcrazy]

I know that restaurant! :) Glad to see you're taking baby steps. Many hugs!

[Janet Isserlis]

yes. perfectglad and sad in perfect balance for and with youmuch love,

[califmom]

Maybe we should meet there for "coffee." 

[O'Neal]

I read a quote the other day, I think it came from some cancer twitter site that picked me up or something to that effect, anyway, it said "If your not living, you're dying." It didn't really hit home with me, until today, but has been stuck in my head since. So here's to living and the fight to live, and the happiness it brings to so many to see you still fighting (and smiling!)! Love you lady! XOXOXOXOXOXO

[Sherry Carr-Smith]

Amen, sister.

[Steph]

I love the gardens, they turned out beautifully!! I'm glad you're able to go on living and sharing your story with us. It moves me more than I can tell you to read your posts.

[BarnMaven]

Your planter boxes look amazing. I am in awe, and a little bit jealous. I can't garden to save my life. I can dig a hole, mow a lawn, weedeat and fix fences, but god help any plant I put my hands on.

[Sarah]

perfect. and something that has been running through my head lately. i keep hearing "you have to keep living. you're not done yet."

[califmom]

amen, sistah!

[califmom]

amen, sistah!

[Amanda]

I think having kids is the driving force for me. Not only do they give me a reason to get up each day, they give me a reason to set a good example...Good on you for setting such a great example!

[TSM/30somethingandcrazy]

If by "coffee" you mean "copious amounts of tequila infused goodness" then YES! And then maybe coffee because yo, Livermore cops STILL remember my name. I had a rough adolescence. Rough on THEM! Har har har! Ahem.

[califmom]

You're on. I'm walking distance to both. :)