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What you can do for califmom's family RIGHT NOW

What you can do for califmom's family RIGHT NOW

SO MANY have asked how to help Leah and Bob, and this is the first thing we can do:

We can give. I know, I know..the economy. But. Every little bit helps. Can you find any amount? Not going to insult your intelligence to tell you to give up your Starbucks or any other thing. You know what you can afford. Do what you can.

Childhood friends of Leah's aka califmom, have started a fund to help the family with the expenses that come with Bob's illness. Insurance doesn't cover it all, and added expense of eating food out, keeping kids occupied... well it all adds up. So. Here is what we can do (posted from Michelle's facebook account):

Bank of America, Nevada

Account Name: Norling Family

Account #: 501008379041

If you're making a deposit in person, you must have the account number. BofA can not look it up for you, even if you have the account name.

If you would like to handle your donation by mail, please make your check payable to the Norling Family. Remember to write the account number in the memo portion and mail it to:

Michelle Wolfkiel

P.O. Box 193

Minden, NV 89423

She plans to make deposits on Fridays and balance updates will be available on Michelle's facebook account.

From Michelle:

Not going to worry about thank you's right now, but we will make every effort to keep track of everyone's name. Thank you all in advance for your love, prayers, and generous support of Leah, Bob, and their children.

As we celebrate Christ's ultimate sacrifice this Easter weekend, I ask you all to please give until it hurts.

Please feel free to repost this information wherever you think it might do the most good. You should also know this is a non-interest bearing, free checking account and EVERY penny will be available to Leah's family when they need it.

Posted by:

T, who knows you want to help

Posted byTina@ SendChocolateNow

UPDATE: For those needing to use Paypal, please contact Michelle at seansmommy98 at yahoo dot com. She thinks she's figured out something that will work!

Reader Comments (28)

Michelle and T. and Leah's childhood friends,

Thank you for doing this for the Norling family ... I don't think anyone can appreciate the financial cost of cancer, let alone the emotional and physical toll it can take on a family.

Thank you for giving those of us who are feeling so helpless a tangible way to help.
April 3, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCathy
This is so lame, but I so ditto what Cathy said. Thank you for setting up the fund, and for being one of the 100's of local friends and family who are giving emotional support to the Norlings. I hate it that I'm somewhat far away and helpless to do anything but pray, hope and wish for Bob's good health to return. Leah loves him so much, and because we love her, knowing how strong her love for him is, we love him, too. Just one of the December Moms.
April 3, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCharmaine
Is there a Paypal account I could donate to? Thank you SO MUCH for setting all this up!
April 3, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterThe Mother Tongue
I second the need for a Paypal account...
April 5, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterBeckie Tetrault
for those needing to use paypal - please mail me at seansmommy98@yahoo.comthink i've figured out something that will work!
Sorry this took me so long!!!For those of you wishing to use PayPal to send donations, you may do so via a link on the sidebar of her blog just above her picture "One Way to Help My Family."

Thanks for your tireless patience!Many Blessings, Michelle Wolfkiel

April 12, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMichelle Owens-Wolfkiel
Help??? Does anyone know about the million $$$ life insurance policy Leah gets??? Not to mention the social security for two kids and Bob. Come on....Why not help those who truly need it??? What a scam. She has you all fooled!!!
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNot for you
@Not For You: As someone who has set up a fund of sorts for Leah to provide meals for her and the kids during this time of mourning... LET ME TELL YOU it was not Leah's idea, none of the help that has been implemented has been Leah's idea, the help has been set up by people who love Leah and her family... I love that you commented on a post that was written before Bob died, before there was any life insurance of social security in play, how dare you! I'm unsure of what exactly Leah is getting (or how that's any of your business), but I can guarantee you that she would give every single penny back if it meant that she could have Bob back... I can't believe there are people as evil as you that would harass a newly widowed mother, thank God there are people that aren't assholes and that want to help Leah and her children. You know, when you don't treat people like shit, and are as kind-hearted as Leah, people want to help you in your hour of need. Myself included...

Yours truly, Karyn
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKaryn
wow. you really think this is all about money? LEAH AND HER CHILDREN LOST THEIR HUSBAND AND FATHER.
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterduuuur
Someone is bitter. This woman just lost her HUSBAND, her children's father. Money will not fill that void, but a community of people helping them transition through food donations is not a bad thing. If you couldn't tell from reading Leah's posts, her number one priority is family, not money (as you are implying). Frankly, your attack is tactless. You are her family and should be supporting her through this great loss, but instead you attack her-for reasons, I assume, that are rooted in your own insecurity. This is a time for family togetherness, not quarrel.

But, I doubt you're going to be bringing her or the kids food any time soon, are you?
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTori

I have about had it with the fucking SICKOS that surround Leah.

It has appalled me in the past but I didn't think that you would be this freaking...sick, disturbed, calloused and just the most low of the low of the bastards that crawl the earth.

Having had death and loss and disease in my family (and thank GOD my family is not like YOU) I can tell you that one million after what happened here and the age of Leah and her children in California?


So blow me.

We can help if we want to.

You can just sit there in freakish, bitter misery and continue to taunt a widow with small children. You are such an AWESOME HUMAN.

And I am sick of you disgusting sicko(s?) in her FAMILY. You know...those people that are supposed to be doing something other than coming into her personal space and completely shitting on her right now (or ever).

Seriously. Get some help. Oh, and? Fuck yourself right back to the hell hole your diseased little brain crawled out of.

April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLoralee
^^yeah that's right you draconian charlatain. It was all a scam. her husband got cancer and now she cashes in. you called it. the little plan comes to fruition. don't you just love the internet? It makes everyone John Wayne. what is your legal name that you must cloak yourself in a screenname? post your real name, you coward, so that we may brand you for the deviant scum that you are. You probably sit in a dark room and just hold yourself, typing with one hand on the keyboard and the other hand where it feels right just waiting for someone to do something you don't like on the internet.

she does truly need it. this is why things like life insurance and SSI are in place. what kind of a repugnant, fetid, monstrosity are you to kick a grieving widow when she is down? how dare you call her motives into question when you probably have no idea the hell she and her children are enduring. whoever posted this comment is a pompous, bullying, petty excuse for a human being.
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMisterMike
my above comment was in response to "Not for you" btw.
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMisterMike
This is one of the many reasons why I love you, Loralee. Tell him what we all really think!

April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTina Cruz
Yes, I am sure that insurance policy will keep her warm at night. Because that's what it's all about. She is going to be FINE. Right?!


Have you nothing better to do that harass a new widow and her children? Maybe you should strangle some puppies instead. Evil, man. Purely evil.

And the fact that you are related to her? That's the icing on the cake, now isn't it?

Do you know CA? Have ANY IDEA how much it costs to pay medical, run a household, raise children, for the rest of their childhood??

You don't have to like her, but Jesus, give the woman some room to grieve! And praise everything good that they were smart enough to plan ahead long ago!

April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTina Cruz
I ran out of time to finish the comment, so I add here:

I am the one who posted this original post on my blog. I wanted to publicize the fund that the Norlings friends created in order to help. Unbidden, I might add. I watched this whole ordeal unfold from the beginning, and couldn't just sit here. Had to do something. Guess what? That's the story with most of the Internet. Friends come through for one another.

Which you would know if you actually had any.


April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTina Cruz
What is it about death and insurance that brings the petty jealousy and bitterness surging to the surface? Anonymously, of course.
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRichard Davenport
Hey, Not for you -

Did you know that it costs roughly $11K (K means thousand. I'll break it down all kindergarten like for you) PER CHILD PER YEAR to raise a child? This isn't including compensating for house expenses, car expenses and any trips to the hospital or regular doctor.

also, Jesus doesn't like selfish assholes.
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered Commenter:)
Dear "Not for you" -

You're a real stand up human being, judging by the way you treat a family in mourning. YOUR own family, I'm assuming, how else would you even have the gall to act like you know exactly how much Leah and her kids are getting. I sure hope you don't ever find yourself in Bob's position because I can only imagine you won't have the love and support he received considering you're an enormous asshole.

Since you know just how filthy rich Leah is getting off of the death, tell me, how much are their day to day expenses just to raise 2 kids and maintain a home for the next 10 years or so? OK, now how much debt has accrued during Bob's treatment? How much are the medical bills that are left behind, because everyone knows insurance doesn't pay for it all and doctors, aids, hospice, treatment and funerals aren't free. How much income was lost while Bob couldn't work? And just how much will college cost by the time the kids are ready to go? How much will it cost for some of the extra help Leah may need, you know little odd jobs around the house like cleaning or yard work or other areas that Bob may have helped out or Leah may have had some spare time to accomplish herself but now can't because she's the sole caregiver of 2 kids. Yeah, there probably isn't as much left over as you are so ignorantly assuming, even if it is a million dollars + social security.

I'm sure Bob would want to make sure Leah could continue to homeschool the kids and not have to work 3 jobs to keep things running , as homeschooling sounds like it's more of a necessity and not a luxury. Plus wouldn't it be nice if Leah could have a little extra money stashed away for life's inevitable emergencies? You know, that way the kids don't have to deal with the loss of their father and a totally stressed out mother because she's worrying about bills every day.

When I was calculating how much of a life insurance policy I would need if something should happen to my son's father, the minimum to scrape on by until my ONE son could support himself was $500k. Sounds like a lot, right? Well Leah has 2 kids, twice the expenses I have and I can guarantee the cost of living where she lives is double than it is here. And that amount wasn't so I could live lavishly if the unfortunate time came, no it was to maintain some level of consistency in our life. When you lose the man you planned on spending the rest of your life with and the kids their father, the last thing you will want to do is sell off the house, work 80 hours a week and have no time for your kids. That's what life insurance is for.

And did you know that the life insurance checks don't show up on your doorstep the day of the funeral? But the bills do? So some instant financial support is greatly needed for everyone.

And let's just say Leah is rolling in the dough now that this death "scam" is done, who the fuck cares? It sounds like Bob wanted Leah to receive what she may or may not be receiving. Nobody is forcing anyone to donate. People can make their own educating choice in doing so without your "helpful" insight. And maybe Leah had nothing to do with arranging this, believe it or not there are plenty of people. like friends or loving family, that actually CARE and will take it upon themselves to collect donations for the family. If you don't want to donate, then don't. But do, for the sake of humanity, keep your piece of shit mouth closed. You're really making yourself look bad. And it's really not that hard figuring out exactly who YOU are. Just so you know, you're not always as anonymous as you may think.

I don't personally know Leah but I do know a sad, disgruntle, bitter soul like yours when I see one. You're the only fool here.
April 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCara (Mama C-ta)
Wow. A whole million dollars? Geez. After paying off all the debt of fighting cancer, securing whatever house payments they have left, maybe car payments too and supporting small children for another many years... wow. That should leave her with a big fat NADA. I'm so glad $1mil sounds like plenty to you. *eye roll* I think if you have nothing nice to say, then shove your head back in your bum.
April 30, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterReally now!?
obviously this "not for you" coward has never raised a family and experienced the costs associated with doing so. and obviously this person has no clue about how tax laws, inheritance versus income and the like operate, otherwise she/he wouldnt be spewing hatred about what she/he considers a free ride (nevermind that you have to PAY for insurance, but i digress....) and obviously this person does not have a shred of dignity or humanity about them and it saddens me to think that bob is somewhere in heaven having to look down on this type of hatefulness and garbage. if this person is an actual family member, their level of shame should be off the charts compared to the standard troll. what the hell happened to human decency? it's hard for me to believe someone this vile and foul could even be related to someone whom, by all accounts, was an amazing person. don't even get me started on the cowardice that comes with not having the stones to show your face and leave an anonymous comment. it doesn't matter if it is a ten million dollar policy-money can't replace the person! sheesh. in this day and age a million dollars won't get you very far. obviously this person knows not a damn thing about financial planning, loss of income, loss of ability to save for retirement, or well ANYTHING to do with money because if they did they'd know life insurance is a supplement compared to long-term loss of earnings. people that don't understand how money works shouldn't comment on it. go back to high school, college or some other location, "not for you," and have them educate you on basic economics. and when you are done, look into getting some counseling because you are one sick F'er!
April 30, 2010 | Unregistered Commentercasey
Fuck You "not for you", easy to hide and run your sorry fuck mouth like the diarrhea that spawned your sorry ass. Maybe if you quit sucking on a meth pipe you would not sound like such a loser.PS, my name is attached if you like to discuss this further!
April 30, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJeff
There is not much I can say that hasn't already been said, but wanted to say that I also have a million dollar life insurance policy on my husband. He and I sat down with our insurance agent and figured out that's the amount I would need to raise our kids without having to move into an apartment and work 3 jobs like Cara said. We've done the math and it's really not that much when you think about lost earnings, housing, food, expenses of raising the kids, and college. If my husband died, the million dollars wouldn't even be enough for me to maintain the standard of life we have had, I would have to go back to work (I have been a stay at home mom for most of my kid's lives), but at least I wouldn't have to go back to work a week later.
April 30, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLorna
My dad died when I was a kid. There was an insurance policy and social security and all of that non sense. It's not enough. Not nearly enough. Getting through college was a huge struggle financially without my dad. I don't know how many times I was in financial struggles and got told to ask my parents, as if I thought. And, oh, I'm done responding to this idiot. Lots of love from a stranger in Indiana.
Sounds like the ugly heads of jealousy and envy have been raised.

Leah is not the one who is suggesting we give money. Her friends (not YOU, obviously,) are asking. Boy, you sound so bitter. As if YOU would turn down the Social Security or the insurance if you were Leah.

And, medical expenses COULD wipe out a large chunk of that million $$$ policy. How awful that you could use this forum to sow the seeds of such obvious hatred.

GET YOUR OWN BLOG. And leave Leah alone.
April 30, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCathe

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