Big Titties are Awkward and Aspies Unite

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In the five and a half years I’ve written this blog, my commenters have been a supportive bunch. Sparse to nonexistent those first years would be a more accurate description, but my lifeblood this past year, especially.

I never dreamed that my first negative commenter (aka Troll) would be someone who knew me, much less a family member. My brother-in-law has known me for twenty years. I had no idea he didn’t like me, much less harbored the kind of hatred that would make it possible for him to write such spiteful words, attacking every square inch of who I am in a public forum for my friends, my parents, and my brother to read.

I write about many things here, but spewing hate at my family isn’t one of them. I welcome everyone to go back through my 5+ years of archived posts (those early years read like a bad middle school diary, my deepest apologies), and check for themselves.

My husband comes from a large, close-knit family. I consider them to be my family, as well. They’ve been part of my life for twenty years. To say this has made our lives awkward would be like saying Pamela Anderson is a little top-heavy. (This is a simile that also employs humor. See inset photo for supporting visual.)

It’s been a few years since I’ve been on one of those spa weekends. Perhaps now would be a good time to go. Maybe my sisters-in-law will join me. I’m guessing they would welcome the break. And I know my crack, for one, is desperately in need of a good waxing (that’s what they do to cracks, right?). All this sitting around popping Zoloft while my kids play with vibrating bunnies has been taking its toll.

Tomorrow, we get back to the funny shit. Seriously. This crap could suck the chrome off a bumper, and not in a good way. Oh, and if you’re looking for a t-shirt for the Aspie in your life, my son picked out this one. He thinks it’s freakin’ High-lar-ee-us:

Click through on the image to see a close-up of the planet with the little stick people. So damn cute. Also comes in sticker-form and coffee mugs and cool stuff.

Comments

[blondediva11]

I love you more all the time. When U first mentioned the troll and didn't know who it was, it was bearably funny. But now. I can't believe, after what you've been through, that you have to deal with this. I can only hope that karma is going to deal with him. Love, BD11 xo

[Meg E]

So sorry, hon. I can't imagine how you must feel. This just makes me realize that in my own family I need to go directly to the source when I have an issue with someone and not be passive-aggressive and gossipy (and of course never to be cruel and insensitive on top of it, but I don't think that even at my worst, I could have approached this). I know, basic stuff. Still and all, it's a good lesson...if you can't say something nice or at least funny about someone in public and behind a pseudonym, better say it to their face and have done.

(hugs)

Meg (using my real name cuz I play it that way)

[califmom]

I so wish it had been a stranger. I could have lived with an anonymoushater, someone who had never met me. This has been a new life lesson.Another one I didn't get to choose. I seem to be collecting a sack full thisyear.

Thanks for the love. You've been awesome.

[califmom]

:-) Well played.

[bejewell]

I have tried, but for the life of me I will just NEVER understand WHY some people feel it's necessary to leave such awful, hateful comments on blogs. For many of us, blogs are the places we go to say the things we wouldn't normally say in real life, or places we go to express our deepest feelings, or places we go to fantasize about doing things we'd like to do but really can't. Sometimes they're fictionalized (I've written entire posts about stabbing people, or beating them up in the hallway -- guess what? I didn't actually do those things), sometimes they're painfully true -- but anyone assuming they know which is which is just a douche bag. Tell your brother-in-law to suck it, and continue using your blog for what it is -- YOUR space, to say and do with what you will. If he doesn't like it, he shouldn't read it. Douche. I'd really like to punch him in the face -- and I'm not talking fantasy now.

[Denise]

All I can say is that those who don't have mental issues can see you for who you are. A outspoken, kind, fabulous, funny, sarcastic as hell, loving, creative WOMAN, WIFE, MOM, SISTER, DAUGHTER, FRIEND. I can honestly say I'm in awe of the hate that has been spewed when only LOVE, CARING, AND KINDNESS WERE NEEDED. Frickin' crazy....

[Jay Huber]

Wow. Just wow. You've handled yourself admirably (thankfully, I only have one sister-in-law to worry about, and I don't talk much to my brother, so there ya go). I can't even begin to imagine what you live with day to day and what you and Hubby have gone through. I'm not going to lie, I hope nothing like that ever lands on my plate, but if it does, I hope I can get through it like you have. :)

[Summer]

Wow, what a vile, hateful comment. And then to find out it's from a relative! How do you hold yourself back from picking up the phone and laying down a smack? Screw the haters, they're just jealous of your crack. ;)

[Jeff Bingham]

Can I show him what 6 feet 5 inches and 315lbs can say "TO HIM" ?I dont even know what he said....But my name is Jeff no need to hide who I am, give him my address Leah

[Tina@SendChocolate]

L, it is a privilege to know you. You have handled yourself wonderfully and proved you are beautiful inside and out! Having a martini in your honor tonight. How else? dirty!

much love and shit.

T.

[Lara]

Mwah! Love you and your spunk. Yeah, I said spunk. I meant it in a non-gross way. But now everyone's only thinking of it in a gross way. Damn.

But I still love you. :)

[califmom]

Spunk. Hee hee. You said spunk.

I love you!

[Debra]

Woah! I am not a clever blogger, but I am a mom, a sister, and a teacher of exceptional students. I teach my students that all of us are retarded AND gifted, each unique. Mr. Outsider is certainly an example of that....not in a good way. Forgive me for stating the obvious, but this is surely about his issues and not yours. Anyone who has taken the time to know you knows that you are all about getting off your "crack" and being there for your family and your friends. Your children are blessed to have you. Perhaps Outsider needs a little Preparation H. His own "crack" must be acting up for him to be so out of line. Debra

[Cathy]

Holy Smokes, Leah - what the fuck? Holiday get-togethers are going to be so much fun! :-) You are welcome to "holiday" over here - we have lots and lots of wine.

[califmom]

God bless you, Cathy!